to be in syncrhonic flow we have to be alert everyday , courageous with our decisions in life and KEEP a FOCUS HIGH so that coincidences are bought in to our Reality as we are allowing it...

sometimes we start to speak with a person in the street, and same while we are feeling something like : theres more behind that person i have to know... we automaticly keep the focus high (and positive, free from fear) and generate PRESENCE to receive and unlock messages that are helping us in our life,,, on our path...,

Your post seems appropriate (synchronicity at work!) for my current questions...  I'm reading "A New Earth" by Eckhart Tolle and have been experiencing more moments of Being and awareness of when the ego is trying to take over.  I've been particularly aware of this during conversations with other people that I already know.  When I'm coming from a place of Being and they are coming from a place of Doing, how does the conversation actually work?  Your comments gave me some things to consider more deeply.  Thank you. 

When meeting someone for the first time, how do we create a conversation that comes from Being instead of the labelling of things associated with Doing (name, rank and serial number, marital status, employment, number of kids, where we live etc)?  Without judgement ("are you having a good day?")?  How do we break the Illusion of Separation and connect to others with a feeling of Oneness in practical terms?

Boy this past week just flew on by, and one more crazy week coming up.  Most days this week I've started the day with 1L of water, then a few oranges.  A little later I've been having a smoothie with water, bananas, pineapple and coconut oil.  I am loving those!  I know I haven't been getting enough sleep, but somehow the coconut oil, and other fats in my diet, are helping in keeping me calm and with enough energy to get through the day.  I feel satisfied and am not thinking about food all of the time.

I'm still reading "A New Earth".  I had a few more beautifully calm days where I felt in harmony with life.  On those days, I was only interacting with my kids and the shop assistant at the fruit store.  So then some friends came back into town and as I'm chatting to the lady while our kids played, I noticed myself getting into a conversation where I felt uncomfortable.   I was aware of my ego trying to create a game out of that, while I was also trying to understand where the discomfort was coming from and then just Be.  But then I wondered how on earth do I converse with a person who is all about 'doing' while I'm trying to come from a place of 'being'? 

Release judgement; stop 'trying' and just Be - were feelings coming to me, but then practically - what on earth do we talk about???  Do I just nod and umm and ahh at what she was saying?  .... I asked her questions, we spoke about our kids, homeschooling and movies.  The conversations lacked depth and I could not figure out how to get that.  When they left, I felt a little agitated and bothered by some of her comments.  Hello ego, you are not serving me so you may go now.  Yeah right.

So also with meeting new people - how can we start the 'getting to know you' process without all of the labelling?  "I'm Annette, homeschooling mama to 3 kids, married to an American who's travelling for business at the moment, I live in ....." blah blah.  How do we just cut through that and just BE?

We'd love to go but next Fri is my dd's b/day and we have plans.  Next time though!

~ RM

Hi Beckyji!  I hear ya, and I just got to the part in the book about groups.  It's amazing to get that feeling through an online group, but I've felt it here too, and yes, especially lately.  I've been in groups in real life where the feeling you wrote about has happened at times, without that being the intention.  Thinking about it, it's usually been with an unschooling group when we've gathered in nature somewhere.  What a high it gives!   We've been enjoying a Spiritual Gathering group locally and I usually come away from that feeling nourished and peaceful.

My ego is hanging on, very concerned about me reading this book!  After a very calm day yesterday, it was kicking and screaming last night.  I did realise what was happening but was so tired I went to bed.  Woke up super early, trying to figure out how to incorporate this learning into my interactions with other people. Particularly my kids and people I have conditioned habits with.  Re-read a bunch of stuff and simplified it.  My ABC's:

1.  Awareness - recognise the ego reacting (mine or theirs)
2.  BE Here Now
3.  Calmly state the facts

Plus I need to ensure preventative measures are in place by making sure we're all well exercised, rested and fed the best food possible.

Hello Radiant Raw Flying Friend!  Hope your weekend was wonderful.

We have a really busy week ahead.  I was starting to get a bit stressed about all of the things we 'have' to do.  Stopped and remembered:  it doesn't have to BE that way.  Great! It really sunk in.  Now I feel I can slow down and enjoy those things a lot more.  I'll probably find I get a whole lot more done in the process!

Have a magical first week of summer everyone! 

rm xxxxx

RGG, I am loving the coconut oil.  My skin has loved it for the past month or so, and now, thanks to you, I'm adding a little to my food each day and it's goooood.

Jen, as I was reading that, I had this really strong feeling that I had to write it here.  Now I know why.  It has been helping me a lot and even though I slipped a couple of times, I was immediately aware of where and why I slipped so that next time, I will BE it differently.

I just got off the phone from my man after a long conversation about all kinds of things - lessons I've learned from 'A New Earth' and how I've been incorporating them; a whole bunch of recent personal stuff that has surfaced from my childhood and finally accepting what a low priority my family was to my father and some of the reasons my mother drank and did some of the things she did; hubby's renewed interest in a mixture of political and health issues and how he is so glad that we don't vaccinate our kids and how we really should only buy organic anything.  I am just buzzing with excitement and Know that all is well and there is a grand adventure about to unfold.

Going to go skip with my kids now....enjoy your weekend!!!!!!!!

RGG, it sounds like we're reading books with a similar message.  Eckhart Tolle's "A New Earth" talks a lot about the ego and some of the things you mentioned from Gabriel.  They were almost word-for-word what I've just read.  I get so excited reading it, from the butterflies in my stomach when I hit on a truth to the buzz that goes through and then beyond me when I become aware of how to make a shift and incorporate that truth.

May your day be as magnificent as you !

rm xxx

I had a green smoothie last night for dinner with spinach, mangos, bananas (my only sweet fruit  yesterday) and a little coconut oil.  Very satisfying and I woke up this morning feeling alert and energetic.

I took advantage of the quiet house and picked up 'A New Earth'.  I started thinking that I should contact Mr Tolle and ask him to write a book about parenting when a few pages later, there was the information I was after.  He was talking about role playing and how we can become identified with our different roles.  In a couple of pages on 'conscious parenting' he says "The child has a deep longing for the parent to be there as a human being, not as a role, no matter how conscientiously that role is being played.  You may be doing all the right things and the best you can for your child, but even doing the best you can is not enough.  In fact, doing is never enough if you neglect Being."  He recognises that family life is busy and we can get caught up in the doing and suggests bringing awareness into the doing to create Being.

Months ago I wrote myself a little note "don't DO more, BE more" and stuck it on my fridge.  So I knew this already, it's the forgetting~remembering cycle again.  It's all good, I'm getting closer to a major breakthrough where I'll remember more often than I forget.

Wishing you all a magical day!

rm xxx

Yeah, I need to remember that.  The frustrating thing is that I keep forgetting.  However, the more I remember, the easier it will be to remember more often.

I am so over my last rant in this journal!  After writing that, I stewed for a while and then picked up Eckhart Tolle's "A New Earth" that I had only recently started reading.  I just love this Universe!  Everything I need is always provided.  So I read "Complaining is one of the ego's favorite strategies for strengthening itself.  Every complaint is a little story the mind makes up that you completely believe in. ... Resentment is the emotion that goes with complaining....". 

Oh yeah, it was getting me to sit up and take notice.  I recognised my pattern right away!  And in that awareness, the ego cannot survive.  My outlook turned around on the spot and I have been feeling deeply grateful and humble with my role here and now.

As Eckhart Tolle says "The old mind-pattern or mental habit may still survive and reoccur for a while because it has the momentum of thousands of years of collective human unconsciousness behind it, but every time it is recognized, it is weakened."

So if I slip and slide back into a complaining attitude, be a friend and gently slap me on the face and remind me that I am so much more than the ego.  Thanks!

~ feeling much love and lightness right now  ~  xxxxx

Maybe when you've built as high as you can, you jump off the top.......
and discover that you have wings and can soar!


rm xxx

I so relate to this!  I don't even like decorating at Christmas and other festive times unless it's just a couple of things.  I find it clutters my environment and stresses me.  I hid that feeling for years but always felt like I could finally breathe out when we put the stuff away.  My kids just pulled out our Christmas things after Grandma sent them some of her excess decorations (so nice of her!!?).  The kids put one thing in each room.  My favourite of those is a simple home-made thing my kids made a couple of years ago by hanging a few pine cones and bells from a stick that I have resting horizontally against the window across two curtain hooks.

When we were on the road, we lived in two different pop-top / wind-up campers.  The first one didn't even lock, and the second one had velcro attaching the canvas onto the van.  Both would have been extremely easy to break into.  When we first moved into that life, I used to hide the laptop before we went out and I'd carry our passports and other important papers around with me in my shoulder bag.  It made it heavier.  It was a mental weight as well as I had this fear of loss.  I realised that if I thought about that, then that's what I'd attract.  So I let it go.  I realised that the only really important things in the camper was the people.  If anything else in there was lost for whatever reason, it would be an inconvenience, but not the end of the world.  It could all be replaced.  I've sent enough people photos of the kids growing up over the years that I'm sure they could copy for us or share.  Books can be replaced, as can clothes, movies, the laptop, even the passports.

Our next move may be back on the road.  Not sure if that will be here or the usa again for a while.  We're just starting to get on a roll here with some nice friends and regular fun gatherings.  I'm staying calm and open to guidance.  And in the meantime, I'm letting go of 'stuff' and feeling lighter all the time.

That is so funny about the howler monkeys!!!!

My kids are dd 10, ds 7.5 and ds 3 (he's the main cyclone dude).  They're actually sleeping at the moment and I am staying up way too late enjoying my first time on here in a long time.

It's all good.

xxx

Yee ha!  How exciting about your land! 

I parted with a lot of books when we moved from the US to Oz.  I came to realise that if I needed those lessons again, they would come back to me.  I have actually found a couple of the titles I used to have at garage sales here and have enjoyed reviewing bits of them.  I am about to downsize my books again as I've come to use the library a whole lot more and the internet has so much on here as well.  And we may have another move coming up so better for me to travel light.

it's all good..

rm  xxx

I just added a bit to my previous post.

Caring for the dying...that would be challenging too.
 
Yeah..definitely a personal journey and surrender of the things that aren't working for us and acceptance of the things we can't change.

I found this gem years ago...
"Peace - it does not mean to be in a place where there is no noise, trouble or hard work.  It means to be in the midst of those things and still be calm in your heart." (author unknown)

It makes me think of the eye of a cyclone.  Which is often what looks like went through my house!

Does your friend have children?
If not, I can lend her some of mine and see if she can maintain that state!

I think children can help keep you in the Now to a certain degree, depending on their ages.  It's a very challenging and wonderful time. I am a full time parent to 3 homeschooled kids.  My husband is away a lot for work and I just cannot get out to yoga or mediation class.  I accept my role (though I do get overwhelmed at times) and see that I can work on other spiritual lessons here and now.  I'm working on seeing God in my children all the time which is not easy when they are fighting with each other, it was much easier when they were babies.  But more than once I have heard the voice of God from my own children (wise little souls at times!).  Not sure that's exactly what you meant though, but relevant to another mama.  When things are flowing, and we all are in harmony, I am able to feel the stillness and my mental chatter slows right down to a point where it disappears and it just IS.  It's as though I have to have a whole lot of things going in my favour before I can get there - all of us well rested and well nourished, physical exercise and usually time in nature is a big trigger for bringing harmony to us all.  It would be nice to access that anytime, but I can draw on the memory of it during challenging moments.

I do have a Guide that I communicate with but I only do that when I'm drifting off to sleep or waking up.

I think that inner peace can come from getting to know Who You Really Are.  I've appreciate the work of Neale Donald Walsch and also Eckhart Tolle on my own journey to this goal.

Don't know if I've made sense either. 

peace,
rm xxx