Hey,
just a question (tho not a raw one lol)

Lea-ella is about 14 months now and I'd always planned to get pregnant when she was about two..
but lately ive been thinking about having a baby sooner then that, but at the same time i want ella to be the centre of attention for a while longer, plus im still breast feeding her.. so then i also think maybe ill wait till she's 3 till i try to have another one.. but now that ive had one baby young, i kinda want to 'knock them out' (lol) quickly so i can still be a young mum when they are older.. if that makes sense? lol

So im wondering what the spacing between babies has been for mums on here..? close together or further apart..? and was it a concious decision to have your second (3rd, 4th,5th lol) children when you did?

Thanks ladies

Luv kt
xox

Hi Katie,

My two cents worth is that it depends on the mother.  I know for myself that I could not cope well with two children close together in age.

My children are three years nine months apart and I found that with my eldest she was able to "fend" for herself at times, which was a great help for me. 

She also understood better what was going on, which was great.

On the other hand, I have a friend who has eight children and the eldest is 14 I think.  Those children are BEAUTIFUL.  They are well mannered and polite....but that also says a lot about the mother.

So it is a choice that only you can make, and only you know if you would be able to do it.

Whichever way you choose, I wish you the very best.  Children are a beautiful challenge.

Luv

Rita

Hi, I have five children, the first three were born when I was in my 20's I had three in 3.5years and wow it was alot of hard work but being young I coped.  My fourth was born 5.5 years after the third and I loved that too as the others were all at school by then and I had that one on one time and it has been the same with the fifth.  I couldn't do the three together now as I'm older and even though we say age is no barrier when you are caring for three little one's IT IS, you can just handle it a little more when you are younger (hope I'm making sense here) and you want to sort of do 'your' thing as you get more mature too.  I'm really glad I had my first three together because they are the best of friends and do so much together and it works for them.  Someone on the boards said that 'babies chose us' maybe this is true.  I do find however, that the three close one's share much more readily than the other two!

Mine are 2, 6, 8 and 12 (and my little girl who passed over would be 10) I have loved it this way, as I can only fit one baby in my arms at a time...or at least, that is how I like it.

We all manage with what we are given and I just believe in letting it happen however it happens. I didn't plan any of my children. They had minds and plans of thier own LOL!

But I wish you luck with whatever you decide! oxox