Oh goodness, I'm going to have to confess to watching E! daily top 10 this morning! they did a hair secrets of the stars blurbs, one of them was mash up a ripe avacado, then whip it up with some yoghurt and apply from roots to ends and leave on for 30min.  Not sure how you feel about dairy, but the avocado oils and the milk proteins might help?  If dairy is too much to consider, maybe try mashing up the avocado and whipping it up with the jojoba?

I haven't got wispy hair, but when it goes a bit frizzy, I'll put a tiny bit of jojoba on my hands and rub it just on the ends of the hair, it seems to get the ends to settle down together rather than go all over the place, and I just leave it like that, sort of a leave in conditioner.  Your hair may be a bit too fine to cope with the weight of the jojoba on the ends, but it may help.

It may also be worth considering cutting back on the 100 times a night - it does move the oils around, but it may be over stimulating your scalp making the roots settled and the ends too wispy.  Maybe go for the more gentle silk scarf wrapped round the Mason-Pearsons brush?

You could try misting, with some aloe vera gel in a spray bottle, might help.

Try cutting back on the brushing, you might be damaging the ends. Brushing is good for moving oils, but be careful of overdoing it, and all brushing will make fuzz worse, you may be better combing. You can effectively move the oils through your hair with your fingers by flipping your head over and kind of pulling the oil from the scalp to the ends with your fingers, sorta like preening.

Water only washing may be of benefit, but if your not ready to take that plunge, even conditioner only washing might improve the health of your hair.

I dont know if the regular trims are all that necessary, as long as you regularly cut splits out yourself would be ok without the trims (thats all i do, the ends are healthy after 8months without a trim).

Hi all - thanks so much for your great advice.

I actually only wash my hair once a week - up until recently with shampoo as well but I've eliminated that now.

I agree I'm probably over brushing. Will cut back the big brushing to three times a week. I do the scalp massages.

I've decided to go back to what I was doing last year when I wasn't washing at all - every morning I would scalp massage in the shower, then comb through some really nice natural leave in conditioner. My hair was really nice then. I'm still going to do the jojoba oil and conditioner only wash once a week. I'm also going to get it cut and styled in the next couple of weeks. I do like to have a regular trim, keeps the ends nice and I think it does help with growth.

I'm going to track down some aloe vera gel!

I'm also adding a spoonful of wheatgrass and spirulina to my breakfast juice... here's hoping!

Thanks to all! :D