Jacki

simple answer would be, it is OK to push it away and deal with it other time, but it realy needs to dealt with, so not pushing it away for year and years.


However if the old memory - the old emotion comes to the attention, it usualy means, that subconsiouss thinks,
it is as good time as any to solve it, the subconsious is usually right, it knows how and when to pick those moments


Jennie I have feeling, that You trying to avoid the resolutions...


also I doubt You had real TLT session from Your description...


Here is the simple test, If the negative emotion keps comming back, it means the issue was not solved was not learned.


If the complete learning was done, the memory would either never come back, or would come back only as a neutral or sometimes even positive emotions.


So ask Yourself Jennie, do You know exactly, why You needed to have a cow for a mother ?

When You get the full learning and reasons, than You will never ever remeber Your mum with negative emotions conected and would be greatfull for having her as mum...

It is basicaly the decision of the free will _ do I wanna that person from the past be my lifelong enemy ? and I am deciding to keep the fear, anger, hatereat etc...


or do I decide today that I do not want this person as enemy and am not afraid to feel love and appreciation for the rest of my life.

In case of the positive switch, teh person needs to be carefull not to fall into guilt trap - not to feel guilty about hating that operson till now etc or being so late with switching to love etc.

yes Jacki, the issue is allways the negative emotions, that creeates physical, mental, emotional blocks etc...

If You have pleasant positive memories, that of course You simply enjoy them, and if You too busy to enjoy happy memories, than of course You can choose to do something else instead, but why would You ?
simply enjoy

Funnily enough, since you wrote this, two others have told me the self same thing. Hmmmmm. Yes I am hard on myself. But not as hard as I used to be. I'm getting better.

Yes to focus is key. If I could focus on forgiving, moving on, letting go... who knows?

Rudy, I'm not at all sure I agree, or disagree actually. I'm having a hard time grasping the concept. To let go, we must first understand exactly why we are hanging on, only then can we let go. However some of these things could be choices I've made several lifetimes ago. That can be fixed with meditation or TLT.

The ability to focus comes to play again! A disciplined mind is a happy mind! Perhaps or perhaps no.

Melb I had to think about your post and still am! I understand what you are saying. Look at things from a perspective that brings gratitude. If I must hang on then make it easier on myself. Which goes back to my reply to John, be easier to myself.

I often feel that I have been pushed or forced into many areas of life. The raw path for example. Several times I came across raw until I finally had to eat that way (because my body would not accept other foods), kids, I never planned to have them. I feel like emotionally I was not balanced enough to have children and not giving enough of myself to have children. Both of mine were what we call happy accidents' when tact is needed and 'the results of too much alcohol and not enough rubber' when tact is not needed.

Yes I know there are ways I could have not had children but I couldn't bring myself to do that with these two. But I really do feel like I was pushed to have them and at a certain time too. According to the medical community there is no way known I could fall preggers at that time of my cycle. Ha!

Perhaps it is my habit to not take action until I am forced. I need to make a new agreement with myself. To go with the flow! To strive to move forward. I don't know. Perhaps a combination of meditation and affirming what I just said would make it easier to do what Rudy suggests?

I know, only I know but I find out so much quicker with help!

Thanks for posting and thanks John for the 'love punch'! LOL

xoxoxo

Yeah, it's the same dot! She just needs to figure out which view/approach works for her    It's all rephrasing the same dot.


market research shows it takes 3 forms of communication before someone really will take action (eg one letter box drop is no use at all; 3 letter box drops is better; one letter box drop, one radio/tv spot, one magazine ad, all saying the same thing 'buy me!!!' but it takes the layers to make the impact.

Jennie, as far as my experience, it's been amazing to observe how powerful seeing the issue can be. Seeing has helped me to overcome a number of various things. These are very personal issues, probably not appropriate for me to discuss them on a general forum, and very hard for me to get into any meaningful details too, so let me just say that one of those was being manipulated by a parent, and another being brought up in a society where hitting kids was a norm. I am free of both!

When I am completely in the moment, completely aware, completely observing the in and out, see what is, then letting go occurs. Like during meditation, when the thoughts arrive, I acknowledge them, see them, completely and fully, and lthen et them go. Aaaa....

Gosia

Ok, Gosia thank you for your post and Streamline too. In fact thank you to everyone for their posts. I was chatting to John today, splash!, and on the phone admitted that I am reading all this, can tell it's in English but the posts are scrambled by the time they get to my brain where I make sense of it all.

So I'm just going to go over this thread again for the next day or two or three until I get it.

Rudy, I understand this last bit. Will do!

xoxoxo